Bringing Back The Value Of Meetings

“People who multitask all the time can’t filter out irrelevancy. They can’t manage a working memory. They’re chronically distracted.” Clifford Nass, Professor – Stanford University

Imagine you and I are having a conversation – let’s say in your living room – and you’re talking about something that is really important to you. So important, in fact, that you spent several hours preparing to have this talk with me; so crucial for me to hear what you have to say that you’ve asked me to take an hour out of my life and join you in the conversation.

Now imagine – really imagine – that I am reading and sending text messages on my phone the entire time you’re talking; or maybe I’m reading emails from work. How would you feel about that? Would it be rude? Would you be offended? Would you say something? Regardless if you did, I’m sure our relationship wouldn’t be better off for it.

Yet this same behavior has become almost commonplace in today’s business meeting. The larger the group, the more likely it is to happen. The longer the meeting, the more likely it is to happen. Take 20 people and sit them down in a room for 2 hours and each person will, at some point, either check email on their phone or simply open their laptop and start working.

Under the guise of workaholic taskmasters, what the people who do this are really saying is “This really doesn’t matter to me. If it did, I would be paying attention and thinking about how I can add value to the discussion.”

When we dismiss the value of being present, fail to focus on the conversation, stop engaging people in meetings, and pass on the opportunity for discussion, debate, collaboration and consensus building, everyone loses.

I once worked with a CEO who took the reigns at a failing company soon after the CEO was fired. After a few weeks on the job, he started to unashamedly telling people they could leave (meaning “leave”) if they were caught working on their phones or laptops. It took very little time for most of his executive team to get the hint and start using the same practice with their own meetings. Six months later the CEO made it official and sent a memo requiring A) all meetings be laptop free and B) any phone use must be related to the meeting discussion (such as looking up information or emailing relevant questions to non-attendees).

As an outsider who worked closely with the teams during both tenures and saw the changes from a neutral position, I believe five benefits came of this:

  1. People no longer accepted and came to meetings that they didn’t need to attend.
  2. People worked more productively at their desks knowing it was the only time to get work done.
  3. People who did attend meetings felt more respect and better about their relationships with coworkers.
  4. Meetings were more productive; people were engaged, added value to the discussion, and *GASP* decisions were made.
  5. Post-meeting confusion and questions about the meeting’s discussions/takeaways were noticeably reduced.

The truth is we’re not mentally designed to do two non-related, complex tasks at once…at least not well. Clifford Nass, a psychology professor at Stanford University, says today’s nonstop multitasking actually wastes more time than it saves—and he says there’s evidence it may be killing our concentration and creativity too. From the interview, Nass states:

“We have scales that allow us to divide up people into people who multitask all the time and people who rarely do, and the differences are remarkable. People who multitask all the time can’t filter out irrelevancy. They can’t manage a working memory. They’re chronically distracted.”

You can see and listen to his interview on NPR here.

So if you’re looking to take the next step and join the “Focused Revolution”, here are some suggestions for writing up your own team/corporate rules:

  • Rule #1: No laptop, tablet or cell phone usage unless it is related to the meeting (such as viewing a PPT or emailing a meeting-related question to a non-attendee).
  • Rule #2 Emergency situation notifications are to be sent via email, with URGENT in the subject line, and those emails can only be answered after excusing oneself from the meeting.
  • Rule #3 While subject lines can be reviewed, no emails are to be opened and no emails are to be sent unless they are flagged as emergencies or relevant to the meeting.
  • Rule #4 Phones are set to vibrate for both calls and text messages. Voice mail cannot be checked, calls cannot be made, and text messages cannot be checked or answered.
  • Rule #5 Notify attendees if an important call is expected. If it comes in, leave the room without distracting others to take the call.

Whether you employ these rules as a team or as an entire company, once they are in place and being followed, meetings will improve. They will return to being a collaborative, informative and strategic tool for developing ideas, setting teams on paths, and delivering decisions for driving towards business success.

Being The Boss Means Overriding The Desire To Criticize

A leader must maintain balance between positive reinforcement and constructive criticism in order to truly motivate others and achieve success. - Brendan Witcher

A leader must maintain balance between positive reinforcement and constructive criticism in order to truly motivate others and achieve success. – Brendan Witcher

There is a hard truth in the world that most leaders struggle with: it is easier for us to recognize good behavior than bad behavior. For many of us, it’s because our emotions tied directly to each are completely unbalanced. When we see good behavior or experience a positive moment, our emotions flow like water from a faucet. By comparison, when we witness bad behavior or experience a negative moment, it’s like the Mississippi River is trying force it’s way through our brains and come shooting out of our mouths. Here is a good example that everyone can relate to:

Think of your car. Today, your car will probably get you from Point A to Point B (and maybe to C, D, E, etc) and then back to Point A again without a problem. You’ll go about your day without thinking much about your car or the modern mechanical miracle that it is. At each stop, will you thank your car? Will you feel happiness towards your car? Probably not.

But let’s say, during that important trip from Point A to point B, that your car suddenly stops working.  You’re not out of gas and there’s no logical explanation for it to break down. It just stops. Now you can’t get to Point B (or C or D or E) or even back to Point A today. Plus, you know that your entire day will be spent getting your car towed, working with a mechanic, and finding a way to get to all the “Points” in your life for who-knows-how-long. Now how do you feel about your car? Do you yell at it? Do you curse it? Do you pound on the steering wheel or kick the tire in anger? Enough said.

This is a good metaphor for how we react to most situations and, more importantly, other people in both our work and personal lives. Great leaders recognize and acknowledge that this is the natural state; to react boldly and swiftly to a negative and passively (if at all) to a positive.

Leaders work consciously to balance their reactions; to raise their level of expression in positive situations as well as suppress some level of expression in negative situations. 

Note that I did not state a complete reversal. Leaders don’t constantly play the cheerleader while ignoring that the team needs a swift kick in the pants. Here are some simple steps that can be taken towards that balance of positive reinforcement and constructive criticism:

  1. Be fully connected to what is going on: Actively look for the positive things happening around you (as well as the negative things that you might normally glaze over).
  2. Acknowledge good behavior immediately: Don’t wait for reviews or send it later in an email; do it now and do it publicly if appropriate.
  3. Pause before calling out bad behavior: Take the opposite route and plan to address bad behavior later that day and in private (note: never wait too long to address bad behavior)

Following these three steps with some consistency will get you most of the way towards this balanced leadership approach. By doing so, you’ll start to realize and recognize how far off your natural state is from this balanced state. If you find yourself having a lot of chances to praise that you wouldn’t have seen before (or pausing a lot more than you thought you would), you know you have some work to do. But stick with it, and you’ll find that mastering this skill is one of the greatest tools for elevating yourself as a leader and having success in working with others.

Key To Successfully Building Your Business Vision: Personal Beliefs

Only after you’ve looked inward to know yourself can you remove the blindfold and create a vision for your life. – Brendan Witcher

“Vision” is a mysterious thing to most people. In work, life and even in school, people are told to ‘Start with a vision.’ They are being asked to see something that does not yet exist; to imagine an outcome that will take an unknown journey along an undefined roadmap.

What’s more is that this vision must be your own. It can’t be for others to see and follow. It has to be your personal beacon in a sea of distractions and obstacles. But as a leader, you’ll often need to share that vision, have others buy into the vision, and find ways to have them help you bring that vision to life within the context of how each of them see the world and their own visions for the future.

That’s how most people see it, and why most people fail to create and follow a vision in their lives. It all seems too hard, too difficult to obtain as an ocean of effort. But there is one principle truth that makes having and sharing and accomplishing a vision both easier to realize and see to fruition:

When a vision is based on a core belief, the vision creates itself.

This is where most people put the cart before the horse. They build a vision without identifying the underlying, supporting belief that must live in their core to allow that vision to live and survive over the long run. So before you try to define your vision as a leader, here are some steps that will lead you to a vision that works for you:

  1. Figure out who you are – This may take some work, but sit down with your favorite beverage in a quiet spot without any distractions and write down all the beliefs you have; beliefs about yourself, people, the world, religion, politics, science, health, friendship, family, work, etc. Give yourself a couple of hours (this is important, so give yourself the time to do it right). Pen your thoughts in free form to let your mind flow. Write anything that enters your consciousness, big or small…both mind-blowing and mundane. Don’t edit unless you find you’re not being honest with yourself. You won’t show this to anyone, so allow yourself to be open and real with what you write.
  2. Figure out what you’re passionate about – Now that you have your list together, create a scoring system for your beliefs. What beliefs stir emotion in you? What gets you excited or makes you want to jump up and act? I, for example, believe that the greatest gift of our intellect is the power to educate. It is what drives me to learn, to study, and to offer what I learn to others freely. It is what gets me out of bed each morning and the yardstick by which I measure my success. I also have a belief that pizza is the greatest food in the world. Does that belief get me excited about expressing my inner self through the creation and sharing of this delicious Italian pie? No, but some people do feel this way.
  3. Take what’s important and visualize living a life based on those beliefs – If you were critical in the last step about what sits at the top of your passion list, you probably ended up with 1-2 strong beliefs about yourself and different areas of life (work, family, friends, religion, politics, etc). Take that list and recreate it on a new sheet of paper or document. This step is your virtual stripping away of the things that are interesting, but not passion-driving influences in your life.   With your new list in hand, build a vision for each belief on what actions you can take to support, drive and live that belief. Envision what life looks like when you are living fully connected with these beliefs. Again, this should be somewhat free form, and again think big and small…your actions in aggregate will help define the next step.
  4. Work your visions for actions and activities into single statements – Here you are finally ready for the proverbial cart. Think of what you’ve written for each belief as a short story. What would the title of that story be? What overarching theme is your vision for that belief? What are all the activities and actions you can take to support that belief creating in the way of a world view? I’ve seen this step take hours and I’ve seen this step take days to complete. It’s not easy, but it will be something you need to do to create manageable “mantras” for living your life. Once you have them, write them down in places you can refer to them: at home, in your car, at the office, etc. Refer to them often to remind yourself where you are heading and why.

Yes, this will take some work and a lot of thought, but on the other side lies a focus and understanding that will help you achieve your goals. You may want to go through this activity from start to finish a few times in your life. You may even revise the last step a couple times as you learn and start to live your vision. But whatever you do, you can have confidence in knowing that the visions you’ve built and are living by will 1) be your own, 2) be based on something you hold true at your core, and 3) be something you can communicate and explain clearly to others…all signs that you have the right vision for your life.

Leadership Means Letting Others Learn From Adversity

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Hardships often prepare ordinary people for extraordinary destiny… – C.S. Lewis

It is our natural instinct to want to help others. We see someone struggling and our first reaction is to do what we can to resolve their issue. We empathize, internalize their struggle, and make it our own. This happens with our friends, family, spouses, kids, employees, co-workers and even strangers.

Normally, stepping up and inserting ourselves into a situation to help someone else is a welcomed action. A bit of hesitation maybe on the other person’s part that they may be troubling you, but in most cases the helping hand is a relief. The issue gets resolved together and everyone is happy.

A good thing…right? Not always.

When someone has an opportunity to learn from a difficult situation, you are hurting more than helping when you resolve the issue for them.

It’s a thin line that determines when you should jump in and stay out, but there are some steps you can take to help you stop and think before moving in with all your wisdom and resolution skills. I call it PADDing a situation:

  1. Pause: Giving it a moment, relaxing, and thinking about the situation is usually a good first move. Consider what this person can learn from the situation. If someone is trying to figure out an Excel function or how to craft a difficult email to a co-worker, allow them the chance to connect their own neurons and have the experience logged into their memory. If someone is trying to push their car off to the side of the road because they ran out of gas, the lessons probably been learned and giving them some assistance would be appropriate.
  2. Ask: This is what many people ask when they see someone faced with a challenge: “Do you need some help?” Wrong question. Here is the question you should be asking: “What are you working on?” This question 1) keeps you out of the situation, 2) helps you assess the other person’s level of frustration, and 3) let’s you know if you can even be helpful in the first place . It also gives them permission to inform you, dismiss you and/or ask you for help, which you still should not do until you…
  3. Discuss: Talk it through. Don’t solve it for them – guide them to the answer. Let them know what you did the last time you faced a similar situation (or what first step you would take). In the examples above, you might say “The last time I needed that, I found the answer using the Excel help function.” or “Whenever I have to write those kinds of emails, I usually ask myself two questions: ‘What am I trying to really say?’ and ‘What is the other person probably feeling?'” Once you have given pause, asked the right question, and given them a nudge (vs. a shove), then you have to…
  4. Determine: Now it’s time for you to ask yourself some questions. Is this out of this person’s abilities to accomplish? Is the answer too complex? Is the person completely off in the wrong direction in looking for an answer? Most importantly, ask yourself if the lesson learned is important. Be really critical of yourself as you ask these questions. By solving a problem for someone, you risk robbing them of an opportunity, making them feel incompetent or stupid, and possibly embarrassing them. Move in only if you feel like “the juice isn’t worth the squeeze” for the other person.

I say this a lot, but as a leader it’s your job to take ownership of a situation and do what’s best for the other person. Thinking the other person is going to get mad at you for not helping is not a reason to interfere. You have to give other person the chance to stretch their limits, to see that they are capable of doing more than even they believe they can. When they figure it out, give them praise and acknowledge their accomplishment. Most people will appreciate what you’ve done for them when you let them grow…even if they don’t express it. People can overcome most problems when are given the time and encouragement to have confidence in themselves.

Roadmap for Success in Building Your Personal Brand

You may stand out, but are you stepping up?

One of the most challenging things we can do as Leaders is to inspire and motivate a wide range of personalities. Some would tell you that personal branding of your leadership requires you to have one approach, one style, and to become master of that approach, to be recognized for those values, to use it to lead all people down the path to eternal bliss…

But does it?

Chickens (Leadership Brand) vs. Eggs (Leadership Values)

Is leadership about a unique style, delivery and method…or is it something more? Is it more about the underlying values you place on being a leader? On integrity, courage, trust, wisdom, honestly, communication, genuineness? Are these values – if present in any approach – really the only things that matter? I might argue that they are.

I’ve seen many (far too many) people fail at “leadership” and then place blame elsewhere by stating that their unique leadership approach just doesn’t work for certain personality types. When, in fact, what I perceived the cause of failure to be was a missing value of leadership. Often, for some reason, the missing value is empathy (not sure why…maybe another blog post for that one), but I also find many wannabe leaders who miss on using leadership values such as compassion, honesty, transparency, wisdom and, worst of all, listening.

But let’s assume you have your ducks in line, and that your underlying value system is both strong and contains most of the critical components to be a Leader. What are the steps to putting the frosting and sugar decorations on those value cake layers? How do you build a leadership brand that inspiring, memorable and unique?

Build the Unique You

The most unique thing about you is…well…“You”. The first step here – and it must be the first step – is to get a firm understanding of who you are; where you came from, what gets your juices flowing, and what comes naturally to you. When you’re comfortable, others will become comfortable around you. Forget that you want to be, be who you are naturally. As long as that person inside you isn’t a screaming, selfish jerk, you’re probably in the range of acceptable personalities. The point is to focus on the things that make up who you are – your interests, talents and passions – understand them, appreciate them, and then use them to start building “You” The Leader.

The next step to developing your unique personal brand is to find the one thing that you can use to make “You” stand out. You need to pinpoint what is unique about you — not something that applies only to a few other people, but something that applies only to you. For most of us, this is only going to be one or two specific things. My personal thing is analogies. I love them and use them so frequently that people often jest at my expense if one doesn’t come out of me in a meeting. But that makes me memorable…in a good way. It’s a part of how I deliver my leadership to the masses and it gets noticed (I will save you from my urge to present some clever comparison for you here).

Get Hooked Up to the Network

In addition to the deep, introspective stuff, there are some housekeeping steps to take care of, and these can be done anytime (translated: ASAP). Make sure you have ahold of “you” and own your name everywhere. Start a list and make sure you sign up using your name for every social network and website login you can think of. I even own Hotmail, Yahoo and a dozen other login sites just in case I might need them in the future.

It goes without saying that part of this ownership involves you buying your space on the Internet. Use NetworkSolutions.com or GoDaddy.com or whatever site you like to register “You”.com. If you’re ready to start using some of these sites, have at it and show people who you are. Being a leader means getting yourself out there and practicing being one through communication. Trust me. Trying to be a leader with just you is both strange and pointless. Get Blogging, Tweeting, Liking, Stumbling or whatever you prefer, but get engaged on a variety of social media networks. Hitting Klout.com can be used as a starting point to make sure you’re linking up all the biggest sites out there.

As part of this exercise, you’re also going to want to put pictures up on these sites, tagged with your name so that search results you have image results. If you start getting some level of recognition in these communities, it’s a smart move to utilize the Google Alerts system to monitor your name (and misspellings) so you always know what people are saying about you.

I should point out here that the most important thing about getting out there is to do it in some way that’s valuable – through content, communication or even just encouragement. While I’m sure it would be riveting, don’t post things that are only of trivial interest to you like“25 Things I Found in My Couch Today”. Write with an audience in mind, whether that is a single person or a general group. Ask yourself this before you write, “Why would someone want to read this?” Don’t get me wrong, the topic you write about can be you, but make it relatable to someone you can picture in your mind’s eye. Also, make it relevant in a manner that relates to your brand so others start getting a feel for what you’re about.

Advanced Leadership Branding Efforts

Once you start finding your groove (and you’ll know it when you get there), start taking your efforts to the next level. You’ll start to have more time as you find leading to come more naturally. Here are three steps that I recommend you start thinking about.

Package It! A Brand is more than a pretty face (most of the time), so get a theme going. If you want to “sell” a product – aka Leadership Brand – you’ll need to become a marketer to some degree. One of the first (and easiest steps) is to get some consistency going across all off your sites/assets. Pick color(s), phasing, a motto, a headshot, fonts, and even a particular creative pattern, then use these everywhere. Being consistent in appearance tells the general public “Hey, you’ve seen this before. Yes, it’s me. You’re in the right place.”

Make “You” Tangible! The way you present yourself is critical, but having something tangible, something that goes beyond words in a blog or tweet, is what will set you up above the crowd. These can be done in a number of ways, the easiest is to either publish something or create an event (seminar or even an online chat). Have something that people can talk about and think of you when they think of that thing they are discussing with others. Make people your champion and they will do half the work for you in spreading the value that “You” bring to the table.

Get Up There! Public speaking is something that doesn’t come naturally to most people. This is exactly why getting good at it matters; it sets your brand apart to many people. Here are a few do’s and don’ts to get this part going:

  • DO get comfortable with whatever you would eventually discuss as part of the leader you want to be. If you’re into motivation, learn it like the back of your hand. There is not substitute for being confident in the knowledge you have about a subject.
  • DON’T practice alone in front of a video camera. I assure you, everyone looks stupid doing this. This will only hurt your confidence level. If you do have the opportunity to speak, I DO recommend asking someone to take video of you. But being up in front of a group, you will behave in a natural manner vs. critiquing how you look giving a speech to your cat.
  • DO get in touch with Toastmasters (toastmasters.com). These folks are great for helping with taking your public speaking skills to the next level. My experience has been that they will let you attend a couple sessions free of dues just to learn about it.
  • DO volunteer to speak whenever you get the chance. Even if you’re in a meeting and someone asks how everyone’s weekend was, share something. Getting comfortable looking people in the eye, having all eyes on you, and hearing the sound of just your voice resonate in a quiet room can never be done enough to prepare you for presenting or teaching in front of a crowd.

A Final Note…

As with any endeavor, there are always going to be those who will find some pleasure in questioning you. Don’t let it distract you. You own this process. This is one time when something can be all about you and have it be a good thing. Advise is great – heck, I’m giving you some here – but in the end, you have to decide for yourself what you like & don’t like, what you want to be or not be, and the way you want your leadership brand to be presented out there in the world.

 

Resolving Conflicts in Your Work Relationships

Does this remind you of anyone?

When it comes to confronting difficult people at work, we all feel challenged on a level that’s hard to compare to other situations in the work environment. Unfortunately, speaking to that person directly is usually not the action we take – replaced by either hesitation, coddling or, in extreme cases, complete avoidance of the individual. Why? Because most people are fearful that any action would lead to a worse situation than simply ignoring the person’s abrasive or downright abusive behavior. Yes, there are those who confront others easily without as much as a bat of the eye. But without a good understanding of the situation and the right approach, this can easily lead to irreparable damage to the relationship or even a “friendly” meeting with HR.

People I’ve coached on this topic have most often expressed concern that, if they confront the other person, he/she will either retaliate, make their life at work difficult or at best cause a scene. I’ve also heard statements made of futility, that it’s useless to speak up because ‘There’s no point. The person will never change.’

I’m not going to pretend that this isn’t sometimes the case. There are folks who think they’re perfect, don’t care about how they are coming across, and are not open to change. I have found, however, that most of the people we find challenging either a) know they are imperfect, b) have heard similar feedback, or c) are not aware of how they are coming across. In these cases, I’ve usually found people are willing and open to change (or at least try). If you have a situation like this and feel a relationship with this person is salvageable, here are some steps you can take towards improving the issue and, hopefully, creating a better work environment for both of you.

1. Put your perception in a positive place.

You have to start here. Without believing that the situation can be worked out, your approach will come across as defensive or accusatory or both. Your words need to come from a place where you genuinely want to work things out without a desire to make the other person feel bad or regretful. Once you can confidently and honestly get to this place, go on to step 2.

2. Plan the right time & place…for both of you.

In your office or just when the other person is trying to leave for the day would be the wrong approach. Schedule an offsite lunch or casual dinner (no drinking) with the person, just the two of you. A neutral environment is important for both of you to feel secure and physically “separates” the issue from work. It goes without saying, but don’t plan 30 minutes if that’s what time you need to get your conversation out. Leave time for discussion. The other person may need some validation or additional communication from you and deserves the time as well.

3. Focus communication on the problem, not the person.

You have to own this situation with the other person. You cannot put the blame solely on their head. This is critical for yielding a positive outcome from your discussion. Avoid any name calling, direct accusations or statements that start “You’re being…”.  Instead start with something along the lines of “There are differences between us I’m hoping we can discuss and maybe I can learn what I can do better to create a more positive relationship between us.” It is important that you stress how valuable a good working relationship is for both of you and that this is the goal you hope the two of you can reach together. From there, work towards defining the cause of the problem; maybe you have conflicting goals or objectives, maybe you’re both under a lot of stress or maybe each of your communication styles are simply hard for the other to understand. Defining the problem in a way that both you and the other person agree upon removes blame and allows you to address the real issue, not the other person’s self-esteem.

4. Allow for venting, and then strive for a partnership.

While you may be focused on the future, there may be some need for the other person to express how he/she is feeling about a past situation or conversation. Here is where you have to be the listener and validator. Be empathetic and patient in hearing the other person out, but don’t add to the discussion over details regarding a past event, not one comment. Your goal is to focus on the future and how the two of you can partner to make sure what happens from this moment on is positive. If the other person is asking for all the change to come from you, begin ideas with ‘Can we both…?’ or ‘If I…, will you …?’. Come together on future agreements; don’t split up over past disagreements.

5. Consider following up with a written recap.

If there is a trust issue or a history of problems, you may want to communicate in writing what you’ve discussed. Simply send that person (and only that person…no blind CCs) an email, thanking them for their time, communicating gratitude that you were able to talk it out, expressing hope that the future holds better opportunities to work together and, most importantly, what was agreed upon. For your own protection, it is also important to keep a personal record of past situations, how you reacted at the time, the meeting/discussion you had to resolve the issues, and length of time until any issues happened again. Your records may be important if you need to escalate the situation or HR is asked to get involved.

6. Expect another discussion.

Unless the issue was a blatant misunderstanding or you both have uncommon ability to change your personalities on a dime, there will likely be another moment where an issue that arises. This shouldn’t be looked at as a setback; rather, take this as an opportunity to learn, communicate and recommit to a positive relationship. If there has been progress, it should be celebrated and made the focus of the discussion. If you don’t feel any progress was made, don’t get frustrated. As long as you’re making an honest effort to respect the agreement and create a positive work environment, then start with step 1 again and follow through. Sometimes people need to be shown that a situation isn’t going to be ignored, but it also won’t be handled unprofessionally. You might be tempted to ignore or escalate the situation, especially now that you’ve applied additional effort to resolve the situation, but consider arranging another meeting with the same process to try and get results from your hard work and efforts.

7. Be smart and protect yourself.

Again, there are people who you’re just not going to be able to work things out with, but you have to assume from the beginning that you can if you hope to resolve these issues that may be affecting both your work output and your stress levels. Here are a couple of quick tips to make sure you are positioning yourself for the best possible outcome:

  • If you sense you’ve picked the wrong time, place or you messed up a step, start back at step 1 and be patient with working through this process.
  • If the person can be particularly volatile, then make sure you take the suggestion of a public place that allows for a private conversation (like a restaurant).
  • If you think they are likely to accuse you of a serious violation of company policy, like harassment or physical threats, agree to have a person from HR join you at that meeting
  • If the issue is serious and can’t be resolved, then do your best to protect yourself (and your mental health) and do what you can to make the best of a bad situation. If this means moving on – after management has been made aware of the situation but taken no action – then work towards making that happen.

My hope is that you never have to take these steps and that all your relationships are positive and healthy. But should you find yourself needing the advice above, I believe there is some solace in knowing that almost all of us face with this type of situation at least once in our careers. It’s how we chose to handle it that will determine both the outcome and, maybe more importantly, the way we look back on it when the situation no longer exists.

Follow Timeless Truths: Iacocca’s 9 C’s of Leadership

Management is nothing more than motivating other people. - Lee Iacocca

Management is nothing more than motivating other people. – Lee Iacocca

One of my favorite leadership reads is Lee Iacocca’s  Where Have all the Leaders Gone. The title makes him sounds like a cranky old man shouting “Kids these days…they don’t know anything” from the rooftops. Maybe that’s why I enjoy it so much. Mr. Iacocca doesn’t pull punches. He tells it like it is from an era when you didn’t beat around the bush and worry about hurting someone’s feelings despite the fact that it might be exactly what they need.

There’s a lot to this book, but a core lesson is his 9 C’s of Leadership. Like any good writer, he tries to make the concept easily digestible. To that end, I’ve been able to remember a few without consulting the text, but I like to open it up every year or so and ask myself if I’m exhibiting these behaviors on a regular basis:

#1 Curiosity: Listen to people outside the “Yes, sir” crowd. Avoid sycophants (one of my favorite words). Read voraciously.

#2 Creative: Leadership is all about managing change. Go out on a limb and always check to see if your thinking too inside a box.

#3 Communicate: Talk to everybody, even your enemies. Engagement with others is how we stay informed and learn.

#4 Character: Have the guts to do the right thing. Without character, the rest won’t amount to much.

#5 Courage: Taking a position and showing integrity even when you know it will cost you.

#6 Conviction: Fire in your belly. Believing in your core that what you’re doing is right. Think Steve Jobs or Jeff Bezos.

#7 Charisma: The ability to inspire through trust, rather than fear or anger.

#8 Competent: Know what you’re doing and, more importantly, surround yourself with people who know what they’re doing.

#9 Common sense: Your ability to reason and think critically (especially when overly concerned or excited).

The final point: The biggest C is crisis. Leadership is forged in times of crisis. The test of a leader is rarely found in times of prosperity. These qualities are needed to be a great leader, but they are critical to remain a great leader when times turn tough.

Lead Like Apple: Prioritize Individual Accountability

To have a fully accountable team, you must break “getting in line” behavior with individual ownership of success. – Brendan Witcher

I’m not sure when or why this happened, but at some point, holding people fully accountable for their work became very non-politically correct. The idea of “getting on the bus” and building a culture of consensus/conformity has become the norm. I’ve been asked to write on this before, but really needed somewhere to start.

Today, while waiting in my office for a meeting to start, I picked up an old Fortune magazine and proceeded to flip through the pages. In it, I came across an article that described how Steve Jobs and Apple applied the concept of a “directly responsible individual,” referred to as the DRI, within the organization. What does that mean?

With every project, there is one specific person, the DRI, who is totally responsible for its success or failure.

Since my meeting was a 2014 budget review for open entry-level positions and internships, my thoughts segued from the article to the pile of resumes on my desk belonging to recent college grads.

It’s no secret that there is an excessive amount of emphasis team building in today’s business schools. My own experience in an MBA program was no different; most of my classes focused on team projects, where everyone received the same grade regardless of effort. I felt at that time, and still believe, that this was the opposite lesson needed for working in a real business environment, where individual efforts tend to define the decisions and outcomes of tasks, jobs or projects. Even in large companies, with 500+ employees, it’s rare that a “team” in some way gets fully rewarded or held accountable for success or failure respectively. In smaller companies, it’s almost never the case.

So, while academia seems to believe everything should be done via teamwork and collaboration (which often leads to compromise in projects), and that the tough decisions should be made via team compromises, I agree with Apple’s approach. Here are the rules I created years ago and use to manage my staff with at every company that’s employed me:

  • Make individuals – not teams – accountable
  • When people succeed, give them full credit and reward them…publicly
  • When people fail, determine what caused the failure and decide on the appropriate action(s): refrain, explain, re-train, or do not retain

If you are trying to implement a significant change, or even build a culture of innovation as part of a strategy, substituting individual ownership with consensus building teams can be disastrous. A culture of consensus (or conformity in a smaller organization) leads to legions of sycophants, merely trying to please the largest paycheck in the room. You also risk suppressing distinct and new opportunities, while crushing any chance of a significant”needle-moving” idea gaining traction.

Remember, if you try to make a unique idea acceptable to everyone, you end up with an average idea. I had a boss years ago who used to often say “Consider this outcome to be the determining factor between you having a job tomorrow or you (and your family) living under a bridge, begging for change.” Harsh, but her point was spot on. If you consider every decision you make to be that critical, the single determining element between success and failure in your career, you’re going to approach your work with a sharper eye, a more focused mind, and an uncompromising determination to make sure that you – not anyone else – deliver successful results.

So, what are the takeaways?

  1. With every significant project, use the DRI concept; name someone who lays down at night worrying that he/she is going to be a failure if this thing doesn’t become a success.
  2. Make it clear to the everyone, at every level, how the job/project is going to be run and, most importantly, who is the DRI. This needs to be said at the top and heard, first hand, by everyone who matters.
  3. Also, make sure it’s clear to everyone that the DRI has full authority and ownership over their job and delivering results, because he/she will be “the throat to choke.”

All that said, there are times when team consensus work is a better choice; in fact, there are situations where it is absolutely necessary. For example, teams must be used when you need to improve a process. Team members should represent the various skills needed to handle certain aspects of a process. Process improvement tools like Japanese Total Quality and Six Sigma brought the team concept to the American workplace; but, unfortunately, many folks still attempt to apply the team notion through every part of their business.

So recognize when to use DRI’s vs. teams, apply DRI use religiously to key areas of the business, follow through on accountability, and who knows…maybe you’ll be running the most valuable company in the world someday too.

Dedicated to Steve…your leadership and inspirational thinking is missed.

From Manager To Leader: Making The Leap

Making the jump between managing and leading takes vision, courage and the ability to let go of what works to find what works better.

Where are we going? Who’s in charge? How are things going to be better tomorrow than they are today? These are the questions that will be on the minds of those around you when you’re managing instead of leading.

I say “on the minds” specifically because you probably won’t be aware that this is what your team or peers are thinking. From the where you sit, in your own mind, you may believe you are being a good leader because everyone is following you. But leading isn’t about having people follow, it’s about motivating and inspiring in others such a compulsion to follow that it’s all they want to do. When these questions are being asked, leadership status cannot be attained.

There are many examples of  failed businesses that were being managed and not led (Blockbuster, Blackberry, Circuit City, Nokia, etc).  If you search through the achieves and read any of the public statements made by these CEOs during their decline, the common thread is a lack of leadership. There was a lot of “We’re going to continue to deliver…”, but very little in the way of “why” the business was going to turn around or how specific issues that were causing the decline were going to be overcome.  During this time, I guarantee that employees were having closed door discussions and spending lunch hours grumbling about the issues and missed opportunities and wondering why nothing was happening.

So why did managers running these long-standing organizations fail to lead, inspire through vision, achieve the needed changes, and turn their ships around? Why did they fail to visualize and act before things got so far gone? Because to change means to admit you’re doing things wrong, which is usually the only nail needed for the coffin if not done quickly. But that’s just the first step. To initiate and create permanent change means to let go of stability, create a new vision that is strategically sound, and communicate that vision in a way that inspires a cultural sense of urgency.

As the person in charge, you need to be the one who sees clearly and separate what works from what doesn’t. That’s managing. But if you wish to lead, you need to find (and encourage others to find) new, innovative ideas and ways of improving your team, department and overall business.

Why You Need a Social Media Specialist

A Social Media Specialist can help bring harmony to your program!

Down below, I’ve given five reasons why it’s important to hire a specialist to handle Social Media programs. I wrote this in response to a short article Richard Branson recently published on Linked-In trying to answer the question “Why aren’t more business leaders online (in social media)?” His article states:

“Why are only 16% of CEOs currently participating in social media? IBM’s 2012 Global CEO Study found that most CEOs are clearly not taking social media seriously. Only one of more than 1,700 respondents had their own blog! Some are on LinkedIn, fewer on Twitter and even less on Facebook, Google+ and elsewhere on the web.”

While he makes a guess and points out that he uses social media, the article really never answers the question and can be summed up as “they all have their heads in the sand, Social Media is the future, and I’m smart enough to know it.”

I’m going to take a different approach than Sir Richard and give the benefit of the doubt to those CEOs that he was quick to rake across the coals. I believe many aren’t engaging Social Media because they fall into one of two categories:

  1. They simply don’t understand social media (the entire network).
  2. They do understand social media, and therefore realize it’s going to take a lot of time, resources and attention to integrate it into their business.

For those that fall into the first category, we need to ignore them. It is the responsibility of all CEOs to understand any elements that have significant impactful on their consumer base’s lives. If a CEO isn’t aware of the degree to which Social Media has become a part of our day-to-day lives, then we can’t hold their hand and lead them to the promise land. There are always some CEOs who just won’t get it when it comes to evolving consumer markets (Blockbuster, Kodak, Yahoo, Nokia, etc.). In those cases, time will make them as irrelevant as they believe Social Media to be.

For the second category, I’m 180 degrees the other way. I’m sympathetic because I’ve been there. I know it’s a huge commitment and, frankly, it’s hard to know where to even start. The worst part is that, unlike almost any other Marketing initiatives out there today, there are no rules or real roadmaps to follow. Why? Because it’s customer driven, and customers are nothing if not unpredictable. In addition, when you really start to understand it, you suddenly realize that it’s more than just another marketing outlet (like billboards). It takes partnerships and expertise throughout your organization (marketing, merchandising, creative services, customer service, CRM, database management, analytics, etc.) to make it effective and to pull data from it as part of an integrated enterprise view of the customer.

So you decide it’s time to enter the fray. What’s the first step? Well before you jump, I might suggest going tandem and tying yourself – tightly and securely – to a Social Media Specialist. The common mistake I’ve seen companies make is offering a current employee (usually under the age of 30) the “opportunity” to build a Social Media plan who already has another job; this would be classified under “additional responsibilities.” The other mistake I’ve seen quite often is giving the job to someone (usually over the age of 30) who is a Manager/Director with lots of tenure but not a lot to do (and Social Media experience consisting of an occasional “Like” on their spouse’s Facebook comments).

Here are the top of reasons that you need someone in your organization, a Social Media Manager/Specialist, who’s experienced with this marketing channel, has the chops to execute it, and does it full time…40 hours+ per week.

1. It’s complicated…really!

Social Media to most people are The Big 3: Facebook, Twitter and Linked-In. But the folks who think that don’t understand the definition (or the reach) of Social Media, which includes any online interactive community. I think this graphic says more than I could with words:

Thanks Buddy Media!

2. Would you go International without a Pro?

This was the toughest lesson for me to learn. Each Social Media outlet is unique; what you do, say or offer on one is not what you would do on another. In other words, no cutting and pasting of messages. What you put out there as a Tweet might be well received, but the folks on Facebook expect something with a little more meat and what you put on either of those wouldn’t probably work on Yelp!, Foursquare, Tumblr or Pinterest. In this way, it’s a lot like doing business overseas; each place has its own way of doing business. It is not their responsibility to accommodate you, it’s your job (if you want to keep it) to figure out how to work with them.

3. You need to be good – really good – at Creative Writing.

Even if you put aside the “what” of your marketing message, the message itself can be one of the more challenging issues. There are much different styles of writing required for social media community. For example, responding to a negative comment about your company would require unique writing (and content) for a community forum vs. a personal blog post vs. a Facebook post vs. a Tweet. If your company has a sudden PR issue, negative comments could hit all of these web channels at the same time. You need someone who knows how to “do it now” in an effective manner, without having to spend time thinking about the nuances of writing for a particular community.

4. You can’t manage what you can’t measure (even in Social Media)!

Every marketing channel has its own ways of measuring business. For example, direct marketers often use circ/response rates, while digital marketers often use traffic/conversion rates. Social Media has its own ways of being measured and analytics, very often using the data provided by the Social Media sites themselves. I often quote Einstein’s saying “Information is not Knowledge” and it takes someone who is embedded in the Social Media world to take the data these sites provide and turn it into useful knowledge. I’ve seen too many companies miss what they were accomplishing with their efforts (and a number of them who also missed that there were accomplishing nothing) simply because they put out a lot of social marketing but never tried to measure the returns.

5. It’s no longer a competitive advantage…it’s how your competitors do business.

Many, many years ago, someone at Harvard put out a white paper stating something similar about IT departments. The fact is your customer/clients/consumers are going to expect you to respond to social media comments. Heck, I know people – although not people I do business with – that actually monitor social media for any mention of their competitors just so THEY can respond. “Hey Joe, had a bad experience at X? We would never let that happen at Y. Give us a call next time!” Isn’t this your worst nightmare? If I have to say more than this scenario to convince you that you need to be out there and in a serious manner, then maybe you fall into Category 1 that I mentioned above.

Social Media marketing isn’t rocket science, but it is a science nonetheless. A specialist can help guide you through a plan, manage a program, and quickly bring you up to speed in a fast-paced marketing channel that already has some fairly strong (and dangerous) currents rushing through it. So is it worth it? How critical is this role to your organization today? Tomorrow? If you knew your competitors were hiring a Social Media “Rockstar”, would you be worried?

Agree/Disagree? Comments, compliments and contrarian views are always welcome.

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